The Alpha Male
Definition – a domineering person; the dominant member in a group, esp. animals.
The definition of an Alpha Male says it all, you want a real life example? Spend a few minutes looking at the President and/or CEO of your company! There is a very high probability that person is an Alpha Male. Observe their body language (note: women read body language and facial expressions like books, another key to success is to have good body language) and learn from them, it can also be the path to a much more rewarding career aside from your relationship.
It’s important for you to learn to become an Alpha Male to keep a woman around and more importantly in love! One of the most important thing is; learn to make a freaking decision! Women have a complex mind and 100 different things going on at once, she doesn’t want to have to decide on simple things such as; where to go or where to eat. They would rather be focused on other things that are much more important to them. So from this day forward remove the words “I DON’T KNOW” from your vocabulary. Learn to make decisions for yourself and stick to them (note: decisions and accountability go hand in hand, learn to be held accountable for your actions and don’t be scared; just stand up for yourself, listen to your grandpa when he says “Grow some balls and be a man!”)
What do you want to eat? Before I even put any though into it, I would naturally say “I don’t know, what are you in the mood for?” Very bad choice of words, women hate it. They asked because they are looking for you to make a choice. If you’re in the mood for the pizza, then go eat pizza. Women will say, “what do you want to eat?” if you want pizza say “pizza”, she will probably want to test you and say, “oh I want Chinese instead”. Subconsciously she probably doesn’t want Chinese and is only looking to test you to see if you stand up to her. Very easy my friends, tell her this “I’m really in the mood for Pizza tonight, how about we do Chinese tomorrow” (don’t forget to take her to Chinese tomorrow…she will feel that she has been part of the decision making process and love you more for being thoughtful and remembering) . Most likely she will agree, if she doesn’t and wants to battle it out, then go eat Pizza with or without her. Send her a clear message, that if you want something you’re going after it. Even if it’s something stupid as pizza.
Proper posture and standing – Stand up straight, your shoulders should be well rested not too high and not to low. Just try to look relaxed, remember you’re an Alpha Male and you have nothing to worry about. When standing up, separate your legs and take up room! You’ve earned that room through your leadership, so show it off a little bit.
Movements – Always use slow and subtle movements. Don’t make too many movements, avoid playing with your hands or things around you. Have you ever set across from someone who is looking around the room and playing with their hands? You feel a sense that the person is nervous and thus makes you feel a bit uneasy. When someone calls your name, don’t turn your head towards them right away. Give it a few seconds, remember you’re more important then they are in your world.
Walking – Walk with your head high, keep a mentality of “I’m above everyone”. Try not to look cocky, and always acknowledge people as your walking by them especially at work. Don’t be a prick, always say hello, be polite and friendly. Being polite and friendly (friendly means providing a feeling that you’ve know them for a long time; don’t do any favors) will usually gain peoples trust. It’s important that people trust you throughout your life, one day you may depend on that person.
Eye Contact – I’ve struggled making eye contact with people for many years, it always made me uncomfortable and I strongly believed that because I wasn’t confident about my self. Eye contact is very important, learn to look people straight in the eyes with a slight smile while talking, it gives people a sense of comfort and it will also give some feedback to the person of how interested you are on the subject. Using the proper eye contact and facial expressions can dictate the direction of the conversation, even if you are just the listener. Women sometimes tend to blabber on about useless work gossip and girlfriend dramas and me personally I don’t care for it. When your love starts blabbering on about a tropic that you have no interested in, just look away for a bit. Try it, you will see the results first hand for your self.
Talking – Don’t talk too much, learn to keep your mouth shut once in a while, people will listen to you more when you only speak from time to time. An Alpha Male does not have to prove how much he knows about everything. Always speak in a slow manner (take your time, people make time for the Alpha Male), practice using your big boy voice too. Generally, when you speak slower your voice tends to have a deeper tone.
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