Stand Up To Her and Say NO!
It’s perfectly OK to tell her no, as a matter of fact she wants you to tell her no. Learn these words NO!!! Now say it with me, “NOOOOOO!” “No Means No” or “I say No No No” See how good that feels? One more time “I say No No No” Learn to say NO to others as well…it doesn’t have to be only with your women. From time to time, you should tell your boss NO when you disagree with certain things, specially if you’re in a management position. Remember you were hired to be a manager to make decisions and stand your ground. When you stand your ground even with your boss, it can make a powerful statement to your boss of a true sign of leadership. Remember, when telling your boss NO, you better have a damn good reason for it. At an old job of mine, my boss came over to see me while I was busy as hell, he dropped of a bag and said “hey drop this off in the VP’s office.” I put the customer on hold and looked at him straight in the eyes and said, “excuse me, I’m a bit busy right now and I’m not here to be your personal secretary/mail internal service”. He was shocked, didn’t know what to say. He wasn’t too happy about it at first, but his respect grew rapidly and I was never requested to do any mindless chores. Now my co-worker quickly became his bitch and eventually mine because he didn’t know how to say no to things. This is true with women, you have to be polite, keep your tone down, stand your ground and she will respect you more.
A women will test you day in and day out just to reassure herself of what potential you have. The basic rule is “If he can’t stand up to me, how is he going to stand up to anyone else! This guy is going to keep us low on society’s totem pole”. If you don’t learn to say NO when YOU don’t want to do something, you will be her personal slave before you know it. She wants to be with a decision maker and it’s important that you learn to make decisions on your own. Now remember, as a decision maker you have to understand that there could be consequences associated with decisions. A true leader understands this theory and has no problems of saying, “I messed up, but I’ve learned from it and now on to the next thing.”
How many times have you gone to a department store and saw a couple of men standing outside the dressing room holding a woman’s purse? They look like lost puppies who don’t know what to do without their master. Think about this for a second; how big is a dressing room? Why can’t she bring her purse inside the dressing room? The answers is, no f ing reason whatsoever! My general response to her is “you brought your purse with you, you carry it”. She might throw a small hissy fit, but you have to learn to be the Alpha Male and not get into it with her. It’s a personal embarrassment, an insult to your manhood and an insult to your persona to carry a female’s purse. Don’t do it! Learn to say NO!
Women can be extremely immature, behaving childish…not to mention impatient, it’s like dealing with a 4 year old sometimes. We all have our good and bad days, but in a relationship when it rains it pours. Because of this, you need to be focused on controlling situations not controlling her. You never want to take away someone’s free will and plus you fell in love with that person, not someone you’re trying to mold her into. Example; she comes from work and proceeds to bitch and moan about the other girl at work whom they don’t like (they all have enemies at work or school). Me personally, I could care less, I’ll even lose sexual appetite over work drama… drama kills more brain cells then smoking dope. So in order to avoid this crappy situation, when she starts blabbing about work: either change the subject, cut her off or catch her off guard and say “let’s grab a cup of coffee” and go. If she says no, you tell her ok I’ll be back in a few do you want anything? Chances are that she will go, if not go by yourself and enjoy your moment of peace. When you return, she will probably have sorted things inside her head and moved on and forgotten about the work drama.
Back to the N word, I’m not telling you to start saying NO to everything in life. However, YOU are an INDIVIDUAL and UNIQUE. Just be yourself and don’t do favors for people unless you have an actual desire to do so without any type of payback for your favors. If you’re expecting some sort of payback, then you’re obviously not doing something because you wanted to.
Until next time..
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