My Personal History
I have an awesome sense of humor and I have large circle of friends, because of this most of my relationships has been from “friend of a friend” scenarios. Althought my current fiancée I met her online, which I will later on talk about her and our ups and downs.
I’m extremely nice and generally I enjoy doing things for others, even if it inconveniences me. One of my problems has been the fact that I sometimes expected a favor in return which has lead to some emotions and angers towards others. I had the mentally of, if I do this for her then she will do this for me. The problem of constantly doing favors or agreeing with a females or anyone is that eventually it will make you boring, weak and your individuality is stripped away. Ask your selves What female wants to be around that person, specially if you don’t pose a challege for her? It’s not so much that she is looking for a challenge, but SHE wants to be around a strong independently person that is capable of making it’s own decision and standing up to others when the time is needed.
My first love - How could you ever forget that first real love, that first kiss with her. Wasn’t it great to feel the tender kiss from a women you love for the first time? The butterflies in your stomach and then the embarrassing chub. Remember ditching your friends for her? All that was great, until she dropped you for the “bad boy”. The world felt as it was gonna come to an end, there was nothing to live for but lucky for us, the human brain helps us cope, shake it off, live and learn and eventually move on.
Patterns - I’ve always been fascinated with beautiful women, I sometimes will see a women walking down the street and say to my self “what a work of art, simply beautiful”. Wanting nothing but the best for my self, I’ve developed a persuasive personality and if I want something I’m going after it and I WILL GET IT. I’ve always been the dog chasing the car, but I got the car and didn’t know what to do with it, well I did in some ways but not like to today. I’ve had many loves over the years, but I discovered a pattern and that pattern is the girlfriend would eventually ditch me. The first reaction would be anger, ”why did she leave me, I’m extremely nice to her and I do everything for her”. Anger would be followed by hatred and then the worst part; wanting revenge. My goal would only be focused on getting revenge and that revenge would even consist of getting one of her friends in the bed. FYI, steer away from this, you will loose friends over this.
Epiphany - One day, everything fell in place and I realized that I was PREDICTABLE. Predictable is just a nice word for boring and I was a boring. I realized that women would eventually use me and spit me out like a bad habit just because they could. For days I tried to understand all the bull shit that society has told me, understand how some of my close friends has maintained a relationship (specially the assholes) and why did I become a boring person. I turned to the internet and discovered a new world out there.
The Internet - I’m sure by now you’ve heard the tearms PUA or PUG (Pick Up Artist or Pick Up Guru) if not, look it up my friends and get ready to suck in 100 years of information. PUA is a person that masters the art of picking up women through many different mechanicms. Some of these PUA become so caught up in the lifestyle and most like to brag about it, so you can find lots of stories regarding their personal experiences. Be warned, you will see alot of bull shit and garbage; just be intelligent about it and make your own choices on what you think its good. I spent a few weeks reading stories online, read a few books and eventually felt overwhelmed with all this infromation. I quickly started applying some of my new education out there and surprising enough I was making new ladie friends/lovers very quickly.
PUA Era - After a few weeks, I become pretty successful in meeting women. I learned many methods to enhance my persona to become a more interesting person, became more bold with a just go for it attitude. (Me personally, I enjoy being in a long term relationship; I actually look forward to one day building a family and actually remaining loyal to my one true love.) The problem that I saw with the PUA community, it is more focused on meeting women as appose to maintaining a relationships. I found my self caught up in so many flings that would only last a week or two but, never lead up to anything and it’s probably because my goal was so focused to get them on the sac as quickly as possible. To add to it, I’m extremely picky on the type of females (from looks to personality) that I wanted to devote my valuable time to. I have to admit that those months were probably the best party days of my life; but like all good things in life, it all must come to an end. I finally decided that it was time for a real relationship so I decided to take things more serious and eventually settle down.
The Present - Believe it or not, I decided to go back to my x girlfriend. All the women that I spent my time with the past year always had something missing from them. My girlfriend seemed to have it all, she wans’t perfect (neither am I and neither are you for that fact). This time around, everything seem to be so different between us, even in the bed room. I felt as if everything was brand new and we both discovered a brand new relationship among new personalities. After a few months the rest of the pieces to the puzzle started to fall in place, I was happy for once and I can see the happiness just from the sparkles in her eyes every time she laid eyes on me. I started to write some of the different things between the last time and this time and realized some the key components of our relationship that has been keeping us strong and happy. Hence this website.
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