Everything in society tells us that we have to buy flowers, chocolates take them out to expensive restaurants and have the most expensive car to keep her interested.  Well my friends, I’m here to tell you that’s all bull shit.

Here is the scoop, companies are always trying to sell you their products (well they have to, or how else would they stay in business?) and they will use any mechanism they can to get you to buy their products.  When you feel a sense of loneliness or sadness you are most vulnerable to spend more money, so naturally they are going to target that area.   The most basic rule in advertising is to create a problem and present the world with a solution.  Look at any magazine in the supermarket line, “how this celebrity lost 10 lbs in 10 days”, “the celebrity diet”, “Atkins diet” and so on and so fort.

Did you know that the Weight Loss Market is expected to reach 68.7 billion dollars in 2010.  That’s an absurd number if you think about it.  The point is, be mindful of societies influence and learn to control your mind and make your own determination on which products you really need.

Another example is Axe spray/body wash as a perfect example; when did you all of the sudden need to use body spray?  It’s not an essential tool to live and if you shower (with soap of coarse) on a regular basis, I can promise you are not going to smell bad(for those that over do it on cologne, I don’t like you!).  The point is, look at the commercials and pay close attention to it.

Average guy showers him self and/or sprays him self with body spray, 10 beautiful women jump and tackle this average Joe and caress/fight for him. (I personally love the Axe commercial with the pig, hence why I posted it)  Axe sends out a simple message, use our spray and women will come for you.  Now ask your self, do you really believe it?  Believe it or not,  if you watch those commercial  enough times your brain will start telling you “BUY IT!”  Trust me, Moose here has bought them in the past.  Pay close attention to those subliminal messages and make your own choices on what products to buy.

Back to the topic, buying her things all the time is a form of buying her love which equals to weakness.  Especially if your buying something that’s just a fab, be unique.   Sure your girlfriend may stick around, but chances are she will leave you for someone else when the opportunity comes by.  A good friend once said to me “women are like monkeys, they will only let go of one branch until the other hand is holding on to another branch”.  Of course there are always exceptions to it specially if she is in an abusive relationship.

Gift Ideas - Once in a while it’s okay to buy her a gift, but make sure your not sending her a gift because you want to apologize for something regardless if it’s your fault or not.  Make sure that its just a nice gesture of love, your not looking for anything back but is tought full and perhaps add more history associated to you and her (Always try to keep an attitute of it’s you and her against the world).  Giving her gifts when things are down will only promote bad behavior.  You wouldn’t pet your dog after he just shit over your new rug now would you?

Flowers are always nice but make sure you always send it to her job or any type of social event she may be part of.  The more females around the better.  Women love to be the center of attention for anything, a wedding is a perfect example (Side note –  One of my mothers close friend who is a major feminist even said it to me once,  ”I’m a feminist and I shouldn’t say this, but every females dreams of being put on a white dress and being the center of all attention for a day”) It’s not so much how much you spend, but how beautiful and thoughtful they are.  When I’ve sent flowers, I will usually walk into the local flower shop and say “I want flowers that would make her knees weak and fall in love for me all over again” and throw a couple extra bucks to the flower girl.  Usually a flower girl will go out of her way to provide a beautiful display, specially after you provided her with a challenging task.  You will learn more and more that women love a good challenge regardless of the situtation.

Chocolate, I never understood why women go freaking bananas over this stuff, sure it’s great but maybe because it’s associated to love or some sort of forbidden fruit.  I love to open up the box of chocolate and take a bite or two of a few and leave a note with the words “I got hungry on the way to see you”. She will probably get a good laugh at it and smile and think about how tought you were for doing something different.

Pets can be a major challenge.  Before you buy her a puppy or kitty, please be 100% certain that she will be able to support the pet,want a pet and most import is your relationship healty and rock solid!.  I have friends who have purchased a pet for a significant other in hopes of rebuilding the crappy relationship, the title of this blog says it all.  Now they are heading to small claim court in a batle of who should keep the pet.  The moral of that story is, don’t expect gifts/materials to fix a broken relationship.  Think of these questions prior to buying her a pet as a gift; Is this relationship going to last?  Does she travel often for work/pleasure?  Who is going to take care of the pet when you two are away?  Can she aford the extra expenses (food, vacination, emergency pet visit fees)?  Does her currently life style allows her to walk the dog twice a day?  Does her current lifystile allows her to spend time and give the pet lots of love and attention they require?  Does her home/apartment allow pets?  Does she have enough space to accomadate the pet?  If unsure about any of these questions, I would advise you don’t buy her a pet.  If your going for it, adopt one that is need, get the full history behind it and say “This animal could really use the same love that you have provided me with over the past years/months”.

Cars, she better be your wife!  I don’t have experience with this so I will have to say to you, good luck my friend.

- Moose

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